Vanessa Bokanowski - Psychologist in Uccle / Brussels

My therapeutic approaches

I propose an in-depth approach that combines three complementary approaches - psychoanalytic psychotherapy, IFS and Breathwork - for both psychic and somatic treatment.

Our symptoms - be they anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addictions, mood disorders or other forms of suffering - often escape us because they don't just live in our consciousness. They are organized from the unconscious - from all that our history has produced without our knowing it, from all that we have had to put aside in order to continue functioning. But they are also inscribed in the body - in the form of tensions, automatic responses, emotional memories that have become ingrained because they were too intense, too sudden, too staggering to be fully experienced at the time they happened. This is why therapy that works only at the conscious level sometimes has its limits: it can name, explain, understand - but without reaching what is more deeply ingrained.

Truly transformative therapeutic work needs to address both levels at once - the psychic unconscious and the somatic unconscious. This is precisely what these three approaches can do together.

Psychoanalytic psychotherapy

Psychoanalytic psychotherapy has undergone profound changes. Far from the image of the silent therapist behind the couch, it is now an interactive approach, where the therapist is truly involved - reacting, questioning, supporting and actively participating in the therapeutic relationship. Our symptoms - be they anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addictions, mood disorders or other forms of suffering - often escape us because they don't just live in our consciousness. They are organized from the unconscious - from all that our history has produced without our knowing it, from all that we have had to put aside in order to continue functioning. The work consists in shedding light together on what operates in the shadows, in a caring and reassuring space where what has never been able to be said finally finds a place. → Find out more about psychoanalytical psychotherapy

Breathwork - Connected conscious breathing

Visit Breathwork is an approach based on conscious breathing that gives us access to what words cannot always express. Some suffering cannot be expressed in words - it is imprinted on the body in the form of tensions, emotional memories and automatic nervous system responses that are triggered without our understanding the source. Connected Conscious Breathing induces an altered state of awareness that bypasses the mind's usual defenses and allows these deep contents to emerge directly - often in the form of intense sensations, images or emotions. What comes up can then be welcomed, processed and integrated in a safe, therapeutic setting. Breathwork does not replace psychotherapy - it goes where psychotherapy cannot always go.

IFS - Internal Family Systems

IFS is a therapeutic model that proposes a vision of the psyche as a system made up of multiple internal parts. Some of these parts protect us - sometimes at the cost of rigid behavior, avoidance or exhausting vigilance. Others carry deep wounds - shame, abandonment, terror, powerlessness - that have been pushed aside so that the system can continue to function. At the center of it all is the Self - an instance of wisdom and compassion naturally present in each of us, which suffering has been able to cover over without ever destroying. The work of IFS is to restore the relationship between the Self and these wounded parts - not to eliminate them, but to understand them, welcome them, and free them from what they have carried for too long.

Why these three approaches together?

« As long as you have not made the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call that destiny.» Carl Gustav Jung

These three approaches share a fundamental conviction: that what makes us suffer operates largely outside our consciousness. They all target the unconscious - but each in a different way. Psychoanalytic psychotherapy sheds light on the unconscious and opens the way. IFS gets in touch with its deepest expressions - the wounded parts that organize our lives without our knowing it. Breathwork accesses them through the body - where words cannot always go. Together, they enable in-depth work - on the story, on the internal system, and on the body - for a lasting transformation, anchored in who you really are.

Depression

Depression can occur at any time in life. It often appears for no reason, and plunges the sufferer into a world of disquieting strangeness. 

Anxiety and Stress

OCD, Stress, Anxiety attacks, ...
In this article, I talk about the different forms stress can take and the very deleterious impact it can have on our health, both psychologically and physically.

Burn Out

Burnout is a complex syndrome, still relatively unknown and often confused with depression. It can indeed resemble depression in the sense that it is also a collapse.

Trauma

"Traumatic symptoms are not caused by the event itself. They arise when the organism, overwhelmed, retains an internal tension. This tension remains trapped in the nervous system, where it can wreak havoc on our bodies and minds". Peter Levine

Couple problems

Eating Disorders

Visit eating disorders are fairly widespread. They manifest as an obsession with food, weight and appearance.

Narcissism

Narcissism is a complex concept, which I will try to summarize in this article. If you suffer from narcissistic disorders or find yourself in the grip of a narcissistic personality, I urge you to consult a clinical psychologist.

Perinatal and postpartum disorders

Miscarriage, Loss of a child / Bereavement

Psychological assessments / IQ tests

I offer a comprehensive psychological assessment for children, using internationally recognized tests such as WIPSSI (ages 3 to 7) and WISC-V (ages 7 to 16).

Parental guidance

The dynamic between parent and child is an evolving system. Being a parent is also linked to the way we were raised as children. We tend to reproduce what we know.

Attention deficit disorder - ADHD / Hypersensitivity

Breathwork Therapeutic

Therapeutic breathing involves a conscious, intentional and deep breathing technique. Its aim is to help individuals access and explore their inner experiences, release emotional blockages, reduce stress and promote relaxation.